People and Business Matters – Getting Your Needs Met

October 18, 2012

I have been combining my business, psychological and inner guidance system (which some call spirit work) together for sometime now. It can be a challenge to cope with misconceptions and prejudices as everyone seems to be an expert. The simple truth is that the work that I have been taught to use is person centrered, encourages personal democracy and practical action. It works for my clients and I will keep ‘keeping it simple’.

Part of that simplicity comes from working with the Human Givens principles, which for me work at an appropriate, simple and direct level. The premise is simply that when the average person is getting their innate physical and emotional needs met in a healthily and in a balanced way they will be mentally, emotionally and as is increasingly apparent, physically healthy too.

 Over the 10 to 15 years that I have been working with the principles, numerous scientists and psychologists have identified the basic givens of human nature which everyone needs to have addressed and satisfied in their life if they wish to function and perform well.

I have also seen numerous new approaches come and go, NLP rise and descend, CBT, RBET and so it goes on change, better, faster, and yet it does not move to simplicity. Working on the 80:20 Pareto rule (Yeah, ok it be management buzz speak, but it has a basic spiritual and psychological truth too – Google it!), keep init simple works. Those of us attending the Vision Quest, before even arriving on the land are already experiencing the deep simplicity.

So why change what works? The answer is don’t especially as the givens also include helping to identify the innate resources available to the individual that can be engaged in helping them in getting those needs met.

How do I start with that? Simple, The Emotional Needs Audit (ENA) is a simple diagnostic questionnaire developed by the HG Institute, which is proving to be a valuable tool since it rapidly highlights where the potential problems in an individual’s life might be.

When I as a human givens therapist help and enable an individual to overcome distress, I will focus on helping the individual to get their essential emotional needs met, authentically and in a balanced way. The I will not just focus on the psychological symptoms.

As the HG Institute notes “Interestingly, when the patient’s emotional needs are attended to their presenting problem often falls away by itself, and unexplained physical symptoms sometimes resolve as well”.

An increasing number of doctors now use the Emotional Needs Audit form with both their patients and staff.




The next People and Business Matters event will be more practical based; using the ENA (Emotional Needs Audit) and techniques for overcoming the annoying habits, starting with the nagging voice in your head (unless that nagging voice is mine, in which case for some of you who know me well, it will remain).

See you Friday 26th, 7.00pm Clophill Centre. Bring a sense of humour and/or a friend.


Do People and Business Matter – here they do!

October 5, 2012

People & Business matters and both experience rapid rates of change. I don’t need to expand further on the nature and speed of that change it is well publicised and bemoaned (and sometimes celebrated).

All of us experience and go through changes; that’s inevitable. It is also apparent that there are many ways to pass through those changes, so practical & secular, some religious and spiritual, but many are lonely and hard. This is particular so as many of us are left with an overall sense of not knowing where to start with a response to that change; how to plan, learn, develop or even ask for help? How to address the mental, emotional or physical anguish associated with the transition?

This can be as simple as needing to write a CV, respond to pressure from work or business, or to return to work or business after a career break. It can be how to plan for business growth, decline or worrying staff, customer and supplier issues – especially for smaller businesses.

It may be about parenting, both of a child and towards a parent. It could be marriage breakdown or career development or it might be about finding that Genuine Passion and Greater Purpose (“Maximise your GP!”).

Addressing the space that exists between the practical & ethereal, person & organisation, stability and space is what the initiative People and Business Matters (PBM), driven from the Community Project at the Clophill Centre is winning funding to do. Focused on teaching and community support the centre encourages participation and has established a number of ways to do so. PBM is one of those, where a warm welcome is offered on either the last or third Friday of each month. It is local people responding to local needs and invites inclusion.

The series of regular monthly events is being held to enable individuals to attend and draw down on the skills of counsellors, coaches and business psychologists to help them develop themselves, their careers and their organisations.

Although the talks have a structure and a regular changing theme, participants are encouraged to ask questions around their current challenges and the format can be interactive. The Forum forms part of an ongoing program that creates community support for those (if not all of us) experiencing life’s transitions.

Each talk is complete in itself and yet forms a complete program too.
That program will soon include the following future local speakers:

1.Dr Neelam Taneja Phd, formerly an MD of an international company, local entrepreneur and Mindfulness Teacher in Schools and Work.
2.Natalie Hailes, Finance, Sales and Marketing recruitment and training specialist with a passion for supporting personal development.
3.Dr Michael Jones Phd, formerly responsible for Business Development at ICI and currently advising the DTI & the Regional Development Agency, he is a Business Psychologist and Hypnotherapist.
4.Angela Samm, a business woman has run a women’s refuge and now practices as Life Coach and healer with a passion for helping people achieve.
5.Peter Bays, former property director at the Burton Group & the Stevenage Initiative & Small Business Advisory Centre, he is an entrepreneur who coaches young businesses and people to success.
6.Paul Channon, an IT Consultant who has worked on major projects for international companies, been Director of a National Charity and compliments that with being a therapist.

The purpose of this blog? To make you aware of a model of community support and encourage your support as an attendee and contributor, at Clophill or in your local community that is and will be warmth through transition.

Vision Quest – follow a natural way

October 3, 2012

Vision Quest – 20/21 October 2012


Vision quests have taken many forms over the centuries, from tests of survival, to pilgrimages, to inner quests. Here at Clophill we regularly hold a physically gentle version of the vision quest, in way that it can bring you in touch with yourself, your spirit and the natural world in your unique way. Everyone can benefit from such a quest.
In this way the Vision Quest is a gift of time to you, perhaps at key defining moments, maybe in dealing with changes; such as career, relationships, parenthood or retirement. Or it may be about gaining clarity or direction in life, either way there will be some form of transition.

These transitions are often initially experienced as a sense being cut off or of isolation, in which we can feel we have remained stuck for an eternity! If are to move through the change or get the direction we need, then the next phase will need to be one of expectation and preparedness for change – we feel like we on the edge of changing. The last phase is when we embrace new positive ways and apply them. The new ways become integrated within us.

The Vision Quest is not just a metaphor for working with those phases of isolation, threshold and re-incorporation, but is a process, which if met with proper intention and attention and can shorten the duration of the phases (and certainly move us through aspects we are stuck in!)

Held and facilitated by Keith, once your application for the Quest has been accepted, you will begin the process of preparing and enacting that sense of isolation, by experiencing and enjoying time alone on the land, before being welcomed back, celebrated with and supported into adopting new ways.

Dates: 20th and 21st October 2012. Cost £85.

The day(s)

We will gather between 10.30am on Saturday and spend circle time together, gaining greater insights into the work for the day. We will meet several times together and have time for one to ones with the facilitator. During the day we will build a gateway to exit from and return through and also build the sweat lodge, ready for the next morning. You will choose and prepare your questing spot.

Around dusk you will be invited to attend the Fire Ceremony and Walk. That will finish and you will spend some time in quiet contemplation before heading off on to the land for your quest at midnight. You may return anytime that it feels right, but will return at first light, to the vigil fire which will be by what is known as the Garden Room at Clophill.

Once we are all returned and settled, we will enjoy the warmth of the Sweat lodge then break our fast in celebration and prepare to close our days work.


Please speak with Keith 0n 078834655171, Skype Keith.Abrahams or email him on 01438 724145 before the 13th October 2012 for your initial discussion.

On the day, on Saturday from 11am you will be asked to fast (but drinking plenty of water) to aid the cleaning process until after the lodge. If you have any medical requirements to eat, please let Keith know as it can be accommodated for and it is not an endurance test. Indeed, anytime you feel like you need something, simply talk it through with Keith and agree what is best for you.  

You will also be asked not to drink caffeine from the Thursday before the lodge.


You will be connecting and exposing yourself to the elements. This can be done either by just sitting in nature or using a small (pop up like or one man) tent or tarpaulin that still enables you to connect with the elements. And yes it is likely to be damp and cool, if not cold, and dark.

You may take:

–          Tent, sleeping bag or quilt

–          Warm layers of clothing, including gloves and hats

–          Water proof boots, trousers and jackets

–          Something to sit on the damp ground and if wished a ‘backjack’ to sit on

–          A torch (it will be suggested that you use natural light to guide your way, but your safety comes first

–          For the sweat you will need spare towels, clothing suitable for the sweat – see previous blog too.

With warmth, wetness and wellness